So now Kaitlyn is in middle school and is on the school team and the majority of the girls on the team have never played before (should of saw that one coming since like I said Kaitlyn was often the only girl on her team). Therefore I shouldn't of been surprised when we lost our first game. But I was. I think I was MORE upset than Kaitlyn..and Jeff (who used to play soccer and has coached) was worse than I was. After that first game I DREAMED of it several times..replaying it in my head and the things that should of been done differently. Their coach I don't think had done much coaching before either which is unfortunate. Five minutes into the game the goalie got her glasses broke and Kaitlyn had to go into the position. Kaitlyn hasn't played goalie since she was 8. No one wants to be goalie. I hated it when she is in the position when she was young and I esp. hated it during this game because she hadn't practiced in that position at all. People tend to blame the goalie when they lose a game but I never have. Like I told the mother of the first goalie ..they have to get past every other girl on the team in order to score..and if they can do that, then how can you blame the goalie? Kaitlyn missed 6 goals.. :( However she blocked over 20 :) Which tells you how good her teams defense was that day. She was bummed but like I said Jeff and I were sick..I honestly couldn't imagine having to go to a whole season of games that were played like this game was. Isn't that terrible of me?!!! I of course told Kaitlyn how great she did and I WAS very proud of her, but still part of me was just cringing inside thinking of how this was how the rest of the season was going to be. Which leads me to todays game...
It was like a completely different team stepped out onto that field today!! They passed the ball, they were aggressive, they power kicked..it was amazing to watch! And after they scored their first goal you could see something come over each of the girls faces..excitement, confidence, and pure happiness! And within 10 minutes they had scored ANOTHER goal!! This one assisted by my daughter! :) She kicked a long ball from left field the went to the far right side of the goal and was going in, when her teammate Madi sealed the deal by running up and drilling it into the back of the net!! OMG! Thrilling!! Kaitlyn actually had 2 other goals that unfortunatley weren't counted but that is ok. The whole team completely stepped up to the challenge today and it was wonderful to see! I was sooo happy after the game and I wish Jeff had of been there to see it. But it really really made me stop and think and question myself. I like to think that I'm a good mom and that my talks with them about being a good sport win or lose are getting through to them but if I get as upset as I was over that first loss, then how can they take me seriously??? I mean - it's not like I was ranting and raving about it to Kaitlyn or anything. I told her how great she did and we talked about things that she can work on, but could she tell how disheartened I was? Did she believe me when I told her I was proud of her? Winning IS fun but losing with a good attitude is seriously important..Kaitlyn handled it well enough but I REALLY worry about the day that Madisons team loses..she takes after me WAY too much! So....moral of the story?...doesn't matter how old you are or how many kids you have, it's never too late to learn something about yourself and try to be a BETTER parent. I clearly am too competative and don't want my kids to learn the bad aspects of that from me. So gonna work on that...we'll see how it goes...with Kaitlyn, Madison, and now Peyton too all playing soccer I will def. have plenty of time to do so! Hopefully they will all just win so I won't have to do too much soul searching! ;) kidding.....lol!! Congrats Lady Gators!!
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